Knock Yourself Out: Keeping Out of Balance

by Donald E Wetmore

The underlying core of my more than 2,000 Time Management presentations during the last twenty years has been the concept of “balance.” Success in managing our time has less to do with the tools available to us, such as “to do lists” and techniques for delegation, as it has to do with achieving daily balance in our lives. If we are not in balance to begin with, we are likely to sabotage our success. Successful time management, then, has a lot to do with what we are not doing.
Here’s my list of the seven best ways to “Get Out of Balance.”

1. Ignore your health

Don’t get the quantity and quality of sleep you require. Don’t take time for exercise. Eat the wrong stuff. Your resistance level will be reduced and you will be susceptible to all the latest sniffles and flues going around to ensure that you take advantage of all the sick days you are allowed.
We are literally driving ourselves to early graves in these “hurry-up, stressful” lives of ours. Seventy five percent of all adult deaths are preventable.
It’s interesting that when someone gets a new car, they bring it in for the scheduled maintenance, put the right grade of fuel in the tank, and keep it shiny and clean.
Our pets visit the veterinarian on a scheduled basis. In a recent study, 34% of the men surveyed said they would not go to the doctor even if they were experiencing chest pains.

2. Postpone time for family and friends

They will always be there for you anyway when you get the time for them. A student once asked me, “what is the best way to take my four year old on vacation?” I replied, “You take her
when she’s four years old.”
Fifty percent of marriages wind up in divorce court. Imagine, getting married at age twenty-five and twenty years later, at age forty-five, you give up 50% of everything you have worked for in your adult life in a property settlement in divorce court.
It’s like the squirrel, gathering the nuts, hoarding away while someone is drilling a hole in the side of the tree to let all the nuts escape. The squirrel is too busy to hear the impending threat.
The average working person spends less than two minutes per day in meaningful communication with their partner or “significant other” and less than thirty seconds per day in meaningful communication with their family.

3. Don’t plan your financial life

You’re a student, so why start saving now? Be assured that your employer, and if not, then the government, and if not, then maybe a kindly relative will take care of your needs.
Most people arrive at the end of life financially deficient or dependent upon some type of assistance from the government or relatives.
Most people do not spend a little of their time, on a regular basis, to create financial freedom and live their lives the way they “want to”, but rather do what they do because they “have to”.
Eighty percent do not want to go to work on Monday morning. Ninety-seven percent say that if they did achieve financial freedom, they would not continue with their current employer or in their current line of work.

4. Stay away from intellectual development

You’re working on getting the degree. After the degree, you may not want to pick up another book at all. Five percent of the population purchases ninety-five percent of all the books. The other ninety-five purchase the other five percent of the books. They don’t have time to read them. They give them away as gifts. You barely have enough time to keep your head above water, what with school, work, other interests, and life in general.
Coast with the knowledge you have. It’s draining away from you daily, but hopefully you filled the reservoir enough early on that it will carry you through your life.

5. Let your social contacts decide your future

Follow the advice of your friends about what you should be doing in your life even if they are not in a place where you would want to be. Be ever conscious of “What would my friends say/think if I did . . . ?” Always seek out and act only with the approval of your peers.
Take comfort in the knowledge that when there is a void in leadership in your life on how you should be spending your time, someone else will fill that void and tell you what to do.

6. Let your professional life just happen

Do not establish a lifetime plan of where you want to go. Take whatever opportunity and advancement life gives you and be satisfied. Don’t rock the boat. Seek the familiar and avoid the strange. Play it safe. Make it comfortable.
If you’ve chosen a field of study you’re unhappy in, don’t consider a change. Hold on to that decision you made.

7. Avoid spending time in your spiritual area

Not only in a formal religious venue, but also in our relationships to others, our community, our environment, and the universe. Leave those questions to others to ponder. “When man forgets his Creator, his own creations will turn upon him.”

Dr. Donald E. Wetmore, a full-time Professional Speaker, is one of the foremost experts on Time Management and Personal Productivity and the author of “Beat the Clock”.